Today’s nudge is all about taking action. What is it that stops us doing what we want, or following through despite every good intention to do so?
Spring Clean Your Mind & Home event
The last few weeks have been especially busy.
My friend Cathy Phillips, an interior designer, and I held our first “Spring Clean Your Mind and Home” event in London.
The aim was to give people some new perspectives on freshening up their thinking and their homes, and hopefully rejuvenate their enthusiasm to do all those things they really want to!
The evening was a big success with a lovely bunch of people taking action and investing some time in themselves. In my experience, it gets a whole lot easier taking action when you stop believing your thoughts, and start to explore some different conversations with yourself as described in the following feedback.
“By asking disarmingly simple but direct questions Tamsin helped me to focus on some fundamental issues and also see a way forward to dealing with them. She also made me feel I’m not alone in dealing with such matters and that it is often patterns of thinking which cause them – and by changing these I can change my life for the better.” Thanks Hilary from London.
If you’d like to receive an invitation to the next Spring Clean Event, just click here and let me know!
Three things that can make a difference
1 Make a commitment
People who have a clearer picture of what’s important to them tend to find it much easier to commit to following through than those who are less clear on their priorities, or living on autopilot.
If there’s no firm commitment to making the changes you want – be it habits, goals or a major life change – don’t be surprised if you wake up another year from now in the same position.
2 Stop the busyness
Have you ever noticed how some people wear busyness on their sleeve like a badge? You ask them how they are and they launch into a whole story of how their life is just so busy, they can never catch up on what they need to do, they can’t remember when they last took some time out for themselves?
My mother has a lovely expression that sums this up. “You know that way when you ask someone how they are, and they go and blinking tell you…!!”
I used to feel a tad inferior when I felt I wasn’t living at break neck speed, but these days that couldn’t be further from the truth! Apart from the fact that busyness just gets in the way of good intentions, I couldn’t be less interested in expending my energy in that way.
3 Do something different and schedule it
We all have the same 24 hours in a day – so time is not an excuse. If you’re serious about wanting to make any change, then it won’t happen with the same thinking you’ve been having (to quote Einstein).
Doing something different will inevitably involve moving out of your comfort zone. Change can be uncomfortable for us all as it can cause uncertainty. But if you can just accept that’s the same for everyone, start taking some small steps in the direction you want to go, schedule those steps in, and trust yourself to handle whatever comes up, you won’t go far wrong.
“It’s not about resources, it’s how resourceful you are” (Tony Robbins)
I’ll leave you with this quote, which underlines what I shared at our Spring Clean event. It’s never a lack of resources that stops us doing the things we want (although we convince ourselves that it is), it’s how resourceful we are.
We all have access to the same internal resourcefulness, be that our creativity, passion, integrity, drive, love, it’s just a question of believing that.